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This is your place to explore all about the concept of abstinence. The only rule is to have fun.

Pledge Card

Abstinence is choosing to reserve sexual expression for marriage. You can protect your future by making healthy choices and building healthy relationships. It's a cool choice, it protects your future, and it demonstrates real love.

Here's a copy of the pledge card given at the SHARE Program Presentations. Print this page, cut out the card and fill in your name. You can keep it with you as a reminder to your commitment.

 

To honor my future spouse, I pledge to reserve sexual expression for our marriage.  I will focus on reaching my goals and building healthy friendships.

SHARE Program (425) 284-2945

Check These Out!

These are some cool sites to visit. Let us know if you find some sites we've missed.

• www.acgreen.com A.C. Green's Programs For Youth
• www.lifeathletes.org
• www.medinstitute.org

Frequently Asked Questions

Q How do I say “NO” to someone who is pressuring me to go farther than I want to?
A It’s always wrong for someone to pressure you!!! If it is someone you do not know well, you can just say "No", "No thank you" or just leave. If it is someone you know moderately well, you can say something like this: "I really like hanging out with you, but I am not going to make out." If it is someone you know really well, then you can say something like this: "You are really important to me, but I have made a decision to wait until I am married to have sex."

Q Abstinence seems kind of geeky, is it really OK to say no to sex until marriage?
A More cool people are waiting until marriage for many reasons, here are just two:

• Studies show that couples who wait have healthier marriages, less divorce, better sex than singles and more trust, caring and faithfulness. Sound good? (Why Marriage Matters by Glen Stanton)
• They want to avoid the possible results of sexual activity:
  • STD’s (sexually transmitted diseases): HIV/Aids, HPV (Genital Warts), Herpes, Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Syphilis just to name a few
  • Unplanned pregnancy: Parenting, Adoption, Abortion
  • Emotions: Feel used, hurt, broken hearted, lonely, bad reputation, angry, depressed, suicidal and many others. How about you?

Q What if I already had sex? Is it too late to start over?
A It’s never too late to make healthy choices. You are worth it!! (We know that sounds cheesy, but it’s true! YOU ARE WORTH IT!) Deciding to start over is the hardest part, but here are some tips to help you stick to it:

• Make your decision to start over and stick to it.
• Value yourself and your decision.
• Avoid compromising situations.
• Communicate your standards to your friends.
• Find non-physical ways to show you care.
• A keepsake as a daily reminder of your decision.

Q How do I find support for my choice to wait until marriage to have sex?
A Here are some steps to help you:

• Talk to your friends and family about your decision
• Hang with people who respect your choices
• Avoid drugs and alcohol, they usually lead to risky behavior
• Your brain is a sponge, consider carefully what & how much you're "absorbing" from music, magazines, the internet, and movies
• Have your best friend do this with you so you can talk and support each other along the way.